Man Wants to Confront His Roommate for Having Overnight Guests — but Admits It’s Just Because He’s Jealous
- - Man Wants to Confront His Roommate for Having Overnight Guests — but Admits It’s Just Because He’s Jealous
Erin ClackNovember 10, 2025 at 12:30 AM
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A man shared on Reddit that he wants to confront his roommate for having overnight guests
However, he admitted that his real issue is that he's jealous of his roommate for spending time and being affectionate with his "incredibly attractive" female guest
"This experience has just awakened a whole lot of bad feelings that I have to process," the man wrote
A man says one of his roommates is going against the terms of their lease by having a woman stay overnight — but he admits that his issue with the situation is less about rule-breaking and more about his jealousy.
The man, 36, detailed the dilemma in a post on Reddit, explaining that he shares a house with two male roommates, who are "30 something and 25." He noted that he's "on friendly speaking terms" with the 25-year-old.
The OP (original poster) said the younger roommate has been having a girl over "on the weekends" for the past month or two, despite the fact that their lease "clearly states no overnight guests are allowed." He explained that the couple has been "pretty quiet and respectful" so his "thinking so far has just been to live and let live."
"I wish I was doing more of what he's doing when I was his age to be frank," the OP wrote, before admitting that hearing them laughing together and seeing them cuddling on the couch "absolutely tears me up inside."
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"This is entirely my own personal issue," he acknowledged, explaining, "I have what I think is attachment trauma, basically one shot by a past relationship, and it really just gives me a physical ache in my gut and chest."
He said his roommate's relationship with the woman has stirred up "bad feelings" for him.
"Last weekend, I sat in my room and cried for the first time in probably 10 years. Having this experience has just awakened a whole lot of bad feelings that I have to process," the OP wrote, noting, "And it does not help that the girl is incredibly attractive."
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He said that while he recognizes that these are his "own personal issues" that he needs to work through, he also argued that he "did not sign up for this [situation]."
"When I signed the lease, my understanding is that there would be no overnight guests," he wrote.
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Concluding his post, the OP said: "I am conflicted on whether I should just deal with my own s--- and be cool about it or what. If anything, I think should probably talk to my roommate before I bring it up to the landlord, but I'm not sure how to approach that either."
Reacting to his story, readers weighed in on the roommate situation in the comments section.
One person advised the OP that because "rules are rules," he "wouldn't be technically wrong" to take up the issue with the landlord. However, the commenter then pointed out that he'd be doing it for the wrong reasons and really needs to be addressing the larger issue at hand.
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"You also acknowledge that you are allowing your previous pain to control this situation. I do think you would be [the a------] for doing it for the reason you’re describing. You need to work on you and figure out how to move forward in healthy ways."
Another person agreed, writing: "Respectfully, you need some therapy," before adding, "However, it isn't unreasonable to expect some weekends without guests too. I think there is a happy medium here."
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